The word ‘nice’ is defined as pleasant and agreeable. Now for some reason, there are quite a few folks that DO NOT fit this definition and I don’t want to hear that you had/have a bad family situation going on or your life is tough. WE ALL HAVE HAD SOME SORT OF TRAUMA WHETHER IT WAS FAMILY, LIFE, OR JUST BAD LUCK AND WE STILL KNOW RIGHT FROM WRONG! This isn’t an excuse anymore and if you don’t know right from wrong, please see the 10 commandments or Google it. It ain’t hard to find out, y’all!
When I was a young girl, 100 years ago, there were basic things that were imbedded into my mind, heart, and soul by my parents and society.
-If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
-Give a hoot, don’t pollute.
-When you talk to people, look them in the eyes.
-When you shake someone’s hand, shake it firmly and with purpose.
I’ll bet many of you have heard of these things and still follow them as I do because that is just what you do.
I am so sick and tired of excuses for bad behavior I could just puke. Our society has so many labels, assumptions, explanations, etc. that it can basically give anyone behaving badly an excuse. Enough is enough . . . learn right from wrong and shut the hell up if you can’t be nice and have nice things come out of your mouth hole.
This blog has been prompted by my high school daughter and two of her friends who are being harassed, verbally abused, and threatened by 4 unsavory and trashy gals as they have nothing better to do when they aren’t taking Instagram shots of themselves naked, wielding a gun, and smoking pot because they come from a troubled family. Not an excuse anymore ladies as we all have our shit and we still manage to be nice.
Let me tell you a story ladies . . .
Both of my parents came from ‘troubled’ families and they have stories that would curl your hair but guess what, they are successful and smart people who know how to be nice.
One of my OT kid’s moms tells me that her family life was a living hell and ‘troubled’ but she is happily married to a cool dude with two great kids and she’s awesome nice.
STOP MAKING YOUR DUMB EXCUSES FOR BEING A VICTIM OF A TROUBLED FAMILY AND FOR GOD SAKES YOU STINKIN’ HIGH SCHOOLS QUITE USING THIS AS AN EXCUSE WHEN THE ABUSE IS BEING REPORTED TO THE POWERS THAT BE AND YOU DO NOTHING BUT BRUSH THE SITUATION OFF UNTIL YOURS TRULY RAISES HELL!
WHO HASN’T HAD TROUBLE?!
Let me tell you another story . . .
I was molested by a doctor, nearly raped 3 times and one of them was a cop, was involved in 3 drive-by shootings, nearly kidnapped as a child, had a drunk and abusive grandfather, lost my awesome other grandpa at only 55 years old, watched my dog get run over by a car and die, watched 2 people get run over by a car and one of them was a child-the child died, was verbally, emotionally, and eventually physically abused for 16 years, had a miscarriage, lost my sweet cousin at 6 years old, had asthma so bad I nearly died, almost drowned once, came across the dead body of a homeless person, was hit by a car myself while pregnant with my daughter, my mom and sister had a less than savory relationship growing up and it was hell sometimes, my first roommate in college tried to kill me by pushing me off the 10th floor balcony onto the street below, high school for me was a living hell, I had depression and still do, I’ve had my heart-broken a lot, and I could go on and on but you see, we all have our shit and I dare you to ask anyone that knows me if I am a mean person.
With all the insanity that is happening around us globally, in our United States, in our state, in our town, in our minds, and in our hearts maybe if everyone started to be nice, things would change.
We have managed to complicate EVERYTHING and the pendulum gets swung so far out of whack that we out think our own common sense. In addition, the world has been made to think that everyone needs accommodation . . . that everything has to be perfect and nothing can be wrong. Well, folks, sometimes you have to put your big person panties on, suck it up, and figure out how to adapt. Come on, y’all. Are you so far up your own ass that you have lost your common sense and adaptability! This does not apply to person’s with special needs, they need a bit of help. Just wanted to clarify and y’all know what I am saying here without getting so explain-y.
Human beings are the most spectacular creatures on the planet. We are given tenacity, adaptability, brains, heart, soul, feelings, and a million other things that make us a marvel. Some of you are wasting your talents on being mean and shame on you.
I challenge everyone to a few things . . . be nice, stop making excuses for bad behavior, if you have nothing nice to say then shut the hell up, if you don’t want to be in school and you are disrupting an entire class who wants to be there, get out and don’t come back, don’t litter, look people in the eyes when they are talking to you instead of down at your phone, give out a good hand shake, and for the love of Pete just help make this world a better place, please do your part and for the love of Pete again, quit killing our own people!! Start with yourself first, that way, you will keep a bunch of folks from losing their lives and getting wounded. You are going to cowardly kill yourself anyway after so do us all a favor, start with you first!
Now more than ever we need nice, treating people as you would want to be treated, and a shit ton of prayer. Pray y’all like you never have before. This world sure needs it right now.