I want to say first off, thanks for being here. It means more to me than you’ll ever know. A little about me and why I think my blogging is not only good for me but good for you as well.
I was married to my first husband for 16 long years. Should have never married him, as I had doubts walking up to the alter the day of my wedding, but the pressure from the big Catholic shin-dig turned me into a chicken, so I went through with it. It wasn’t always bad being married to my first husband, but after our kids were born and he got a very impressive new well-paid position at his work, things began to go downhill. My first husband became more and more focused on money, status, and golf with the people he felt were important for him to rub elbows with, and left his little family by the wayside. We tried to hold the marriage together, but after talking to our priest, going to a Marriage Encounter, and seeing a marriage counselor, it became crystal clear that it was over. The decision was tough but we knew what our kids were witnessing was not the kind of relationship we hoped for them when they would someday be married.
So, out on my own, living with my two kids, running my business, feeling horribly defeated and lonely, I was determined to “make it on my own without a man to reek havoc on my life again.” Ha!!
The chemistry Keith and I had from the beginning after our kids set us up was nothing like I had ever felt before and we were married a year later. I know it seems so cliche to say “soulmate,” but folks, I’m here to say, Keith is my soulmate, my best friend, the oxygen I breathe, and the tranquility I longed for in a marriage. We are a family of 7 now. We have 5 teenagers under one cramped roof. Keith has a 18-year-old boy, a 16-year-old girl, and a 14-year-old boy. I have a 16-year-old boy and a 14-year-old girl. Our kids have grown up together over the years, having gone to the same school since kindergarten. They are the reason we are together because they each saw something in the magic of uniting me and Keith and went for it, and boy am I glad they did.
My blog reflects my past, cuz it’s there, but you don’t have to dwell on it, I tend to draw from it. It also reflects the navigating it takes to blend a new family together, something I never dreamed I would be doing in my 40’s. Most days rock but some days suck. I signed up for this rollercoaster and I’m loving every minute of it. I hope it can help you if you find yourself in blending mode.